Several weeks ago Chuck had met a gentleman (Nicholas) near the farm and, as Chuck usually does, he struck up a conversation. He found out that Nicholas has a mentally disabled daughter and was invited to come to his home for a visit. At that time Chuck was unable to visit but recently I was with Chuck at the farm and on the way home we saw Nicholas outside his home and decided to stop for a quick visit.
Nicholas instantly invited us in and introduced us to his wife, Jackline, and youngest child, Sammy. His eldest daughter was away at secondary school in his hometown and his middle child, Lillian, was also away at her school for the handicapped located in Nairobi. I have to be honest that during the beginning of the conversation I kept waiting for the plea…we have nothing, please help us with school fees, boarding fees, a car, etc. but it never came…ahhh, refreshing.
They lived in Nairobi where he worked teaching theology at a Catholic school or church (sorry can’t remember) and his wife worked as a dress maker. They lived in an apartment which meant several families around and a common courtyard for people to use. Nicholas said the taunts, stares and comments made about and to his daughter were very hurtful and since his daughter is unable to distinguish when she is doing something harmful or destructive the time involved with watching her was intense, to say the least.
They decided, as husband and wife, to save in order to purchase land outside Nairobi so their daughter could live in a freer environment. Once they had enough cash they purchased land and moved to their present location near the farm.
Even though they struggle to send their children to school ( free education is NOT a literal phrase here in Kenya) you could tell they were happy about their decision. They acted as a team, which in itself was refreshing. Both Nicholas and Jackline refused adamantly when people suggested they send their handicapped daughter away and forget about her. They struggle to visit her during breaks at school, but they see worth in it. They struggle to put food on the table, but they know this was the right decision for their family. They continue working as a team and never is Lillian alone while she is at home, one of them is always with her and though they say it’s hard they accept their life and decision.
Nicholas told us he recently began working at night, a steady job that we pray will continue so he can continue to provide for his family and in the midst of it all praise God for His providence and faithfulness. Yes it was a refreshing meeting and I thank God for that blessing.